I didn't dig it at first, but I have to say, I look pretty damn good in just a football jersey.
But I digress...
Why does almost everyone let their ego get in the way of their relationships with others? Seriously, there are so many missed connections in people's lives because they can't risk their egos getting bruised. Sometimes we can't even say; what the fuck? That really bugged me. Why did you do that? We just sit with our misconceived notions, butthurt about something the other person did, while all the while they are wondering why we're being distant.
I bring this up mostly because I know I sometimes piss people off with the things I say. I can be brutally honest. Some people cannot handle this. It's not really them, it's their egos that cannot handle it. I understand, it can be hard to take. I'm not always the first to admit my faults. I am as guilty as anyone. But I can admit my mistakes. While I may get upset at first, I can think about it, and come back later and say; you know, you were right. Sorry I acted like a douche.
On the other hand, I LOVE when I realize I wasn't wrong. That I did nothing wrong. That I had every right to act the way I did in that situation. I thought I was admitting to my faults, when they really weren't faults at all. That is the best kind of absolution. When you realize you have nothing to be absolved from. It's much easier to live your life free of regrets.
Some people just like drama. Often it's the people who say they despise it the most that cause much of it. Seriously, if you don't want drama, just don't bring it up. Don't talk about it. Don't talk to that person. Don't talk ABOUT that person. Deal with it and get it out of your system if you have to, talk to a close friend or your therapist, but definitely DO NOT repeatedly post about it on Facebook. And if you honestly don't care, you just won't talk about it anymore.
So, I kinda like this blogging thing. I might keep it up for a while. It's like talking to a close friend, and the whole world, and no one, all at the same time. Whatever that means.
Drama and bathos are silly things we all decry and we all participate in. We have platitudes to lean on telling us that it is good to "vent" and we "rilly needed to talk about it." And we do need to express things...once or twice to whoever needs to hear it or a sympathetic ear. After you've shared yr thoughts with the person of concern and a good friend, there is prolly little utility left in going on about whatever. At that point it is just keeping it going out of masochistic impulses. Furthermore, any given friend shouldn't have to hear about how any particular person hurt you more than once. Sympathy drains quickly if you repeatedly invite abuse.
ReplyDeleteWell, whether good or bad, I'm glad my blog elicited a response.
ReplyDeletedid that come off bad? the "you" is general, i thought i was agreeing with some of what you were expressing. i maybe should have written "one" instead, but that always feels cumbersome.
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i think i share a frustration with those who claim to despise drama while feeding into it, though i know i do this myself sometimes.
No, no I get what you meant. And I know I'm guilty of it at times as well. Thankfully, I try to keep it to a minimum. I really liked what you said about masochistic impulses. Sometimes it feels good to be in pain, even if we inflict it on ourselves.
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